Couples Counseling

Most couples fall in love and begin their relationship with mutual respect, admiration and trust, forming adult attachment bonds deep in their beings. Research into attachment theory and the science of human love and attachment informs us that we are biologically hardwired to form strong attachment bonds with our partner just as we do with our children. That these emotional bonds are an evolutionary strategy to ensure our survival. That as humans, we derive great strength and support from these strong and loving attachment bonds to our partner.   

Inevitably, conflicts arise, arguments occur, and feelings are hurt. Over time, if these loving bonds are injured, partners start to wonder: “Is she really there for me?” “If I need him, will he accept and support me?” “Can I count on her?" Will he be there for me?” “Does s/he still love me?” Does s/he have my back?

Without trust and a sense of love and safety with their partners, couples often fall into negative cycles of interaction. Most couples try hard to reconnect but still end up having the same arguments over and over again. Their strategies just aren’t working.

A repetitive, negative cycle is like a car stuck in park. You’re revving the engine as fast as you can, but you’re just spinning your wheels and going nowhere. Eventually, the gas tank’s empty and you’re unable to move at all. You’re stuck.

Sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone. Emotionally focused therapists work with couples stuck in this “rut” and are successful. We collaborate with couples to identify the negative cycles that keep them stuck, understand and eliminate the old negative patterns of interaction, and replace them with new, positive patterns of interaction. By developing postive patterns of interaction, couples rebuild strong attachment bonds and learn how to maintain the loving and secure relationship they desire.

Call or email today to set up an appointment, ask a question or schedule a free 20-minute consultation.

Phone number: (216) 410-7841

Email: mimihanleytherapy@gmail.com